Bully Moms

I’ve been listening to the news lately and there’s talk about moms bullying other moms. At first I thought how odd that this would or could happen, but it does – especially among Christians.

Moms who feel insecure or inadequate tend to bully or hurt other moms in various ways. These women have a spirit of hate and cynicism.

 Did you know that gossip is a form of bullying?  Women form cliques to gossip and malign the reputation of other mothers leaving them ashamed and broken because of wicked rumors. Cliques give a sense of false power and community.

 It is hurtful that as women/mothers we must contend with such hate and gossip.

 Gossip has the power to bring on hate and ill judgement toward an innocent woman. It completely goes against God’s standard on how a woman should behave.

  • For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as you want me to be. I fear that there may be quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, factions, slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder. 2 Cor. 12:20

*Notice that gossip is included in a long line of sinful behavior, including jealousy, outbursts of anger, slander, and arrogance.
Gossip reveals secrets.

You cannot trust a woman who speaks too much. She is a busybody wanting to know everyone’s business. Stay away from such a woman.

  • We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are busybodies. 2 Thess. 3:11
  • A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid a woman who talks too much. Proverbs 20:19
  • A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence. Proverbs 11:13


Gossip separates and destroys friendships and potential relationships.

I have seen friendships ruined over gossip. A woman should know better than to believe or receive information that is spread in deceit. You don’t have to be the one gossiping to participate in it. If you stand and listen, you’re just as guilty as the one sharing false information.

  • A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends. Proverbs 16:28

Gossip is dangerous; stirring up trouble.

 Women have gotten into fist fights over evil talk. Such things should not be – especially among christians. Woe to women who cannot be quiet. Woe to women who create havoc, pain, and disorder in the lives of others.
  • A troublemaker plants seeds of strife; gossip separates the best of friends. Proverbs 16:28
  • Do not go about spreading slander among your people. Do not do anything that endangers your neighbor’s life. Leviticus 19:16

A Gossip is a lier.

You cannot believe a woman who speaks about other women with evil intent. She’s a lier, and slander dwells in the deepest part of her being.

  • Whenever one comes to see me, he speaks falsely, while his heart gathers slander; then he goes out and spreads it abroad. Psalm 41:6

A Gossip is lazy and a busybody.

A woman who gives herself to gossip is lazy and does not effectively tend to the affairs of her home. Instead she desires to know the business of other women in order to judge and slander their reputation. Stay put in your home and stop wanting to know what’s going on in your neighbor’s house.

Don’t peak out your window to know the latest news, but grid your lions with strength and show yourself a workman approved by God.

  • Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying things they ought not to. 1 Tim. 5:13


Are you saying things you out not to say? I challenge you as a woman who has been hurt by gossip to repent and ask God for forgiveness. You must make things right.

I also challenge women hurt by gossip to forgive and walk in integrity. God will righteously judge the matter.